In all honesty, there is no definitive answer when it comes to why men cheat. There is no formula, no blanket diagnosis and no DNA evidence as to why people stray. Some would beg to differ – noting the DNA found on the infamous blue dress – but we can’t use Bill’s Oval Office extracurriculars as the standard. Although, we’re pretty sure any man who is dealing with their very own Hillary, would beg to differ. Nevertheless, men are complicated. There are a multitude of factors that can lead to infidelity. However, there is no denying that one element is always found at the core of adultery: someone’s needs are not being met in the relationship.
Most people automatically come to the conclusion that cheating is all about sex. More often than not, it’s emotional. Men are more likely to stray because they are looking for intimacy that they are lacking within their relationship. Not necessarily sexual intimacy – but intellectual, emotional or just plain simple fun. Since we’re already on the subject, let’s go back to Mr. Clinton. Can you imagine how emotionally unfulfilled he must be in that loveless marriage? Now, let’s note that it’s not fair to blame it all on Hillary. We could try and go into analytical depth on the social implications that have made her so cold, but that’s neither here nor there. The bottom line is, we are all just human beings (and sometimes that involves getting fresh with a hot intern in a beret).
Relationships are complicated. Let’s try to imagine what an evening in the Clinton household would be like: intellectually stimulating, a compelling discussion on health care reform, a true mutual respect, and great food. Yet we can also assume that it is lacking in other avenues: affection, laughter, desire, fiery passion, and great sex.The truth of the matter is, no partner can completely fulfill every single need and that’s possibly why men are so inclined to cheat (which goes into the topic of monogamy, but that is a whole other conversation). The reality is, people need intimacy on all levels. Because despite who we are, where we stand politically; there is no doubt that love is the greatest unifier. No matter what is going on in the world, we can all agree that love is the one thing we are doing right.
For those of us who have been on the other side of adultery, we would also make the argument that cheating is not improper, but necessary. If Bill wasn’t exposed in his infidelities, who is to say that his discreet, sexual excursions didn’t made him a better husband, father and president? Perhaps it takes infidelity in order to fulfill our very complex and human needs. To put it in it’s most simple terms, sometimes you gotta stray, to stay. Just make sure you’re not leaving any DNA behind, we wouldn’t want you to get impeached.